hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas
a classic example
daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it
mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too
a common variant
mom: well i’m having a really hard time right now and you know that i’m doing my best and that i didn’t mean to hurt you ergo you are in fact the asshole for asking me to consider your feelings and change my behavior during this hard hard time i’m having
least favorite
mom: fine. you’re right and i’m wrong and i’m a horrible person. there. are you happy now?
see also
mom: you can’t be mad at me. you’re not allowed to be mad at me. i can’t stand it.
So after a solid three minutes of reading this ask over and over to make sure I was reading it right, I had to look it up myself, and jesus motherfucking murphy:
No I don’t have sympathy for some fucker who decided it was worth putting every single Indigenous person on that island at risk of death to try and Christianize them.
Who the fuck does he think he is even remotely considering these two situations the same. David Gaider eat shit and fuck off into the sun challenge.
Suddenly it makes sense why in Dragon Age, the Exalted March against the Dales is framed as the colonized and culturally genocided elves’ fault for not opening their borders to colonial Chantry missionaries. The former lead writer really thinks like that.
I rarely reblog Twitter conversation, but this is so staggeringly offensive. He is being entirely justifiably dragged on Twitter, with many people pointing out the absolutely false equivalence that he is drawing here.
A screenshot of my favourite, succinct response below:
Saturday, December 1st: Hi everyone, I’m Gemma and I don’t really expect much to come from this post but it is extremely important to me as I need help to get through the winter months, especially Christmas & New Year due to my benefit cuts.
If anyone has been following me for any amount of time, you’ll know how much I’ve been struggling these past few months due to my welfare benefits (Universal Credit & Housing Benefit) being revoked under the UK’s controversial changes to how benefits are assessed and assigned and due to my mental illnesses. It has been almost 1 year since my WCA health assessment when my benefit sanctions began and without any government aid I’ve been drowning in debt and struggling to make ends meet.
So far, I’ve been getting by with the help of some of the kindest people in the world but as it’s now winter where I live, I’m struggling to get groceries and keep my heating/water on to stay warm. So I’ve created a wishlistwith some essential items to help me get by and as many of the items are from the marketplace, you’ll need to join my listto buy any items. *I am unsure on how to fix this*
If anyone could spare any amount to help me, even if it’s just £1/$1/€1, it would literally save my life and keep me warm and sharing definitely helps just as much as donations. Nobody is obligated in any way to buy anything off my wishlist or donate if they can’t or don’t want to, I know we’re all struggling. Thank you for your help 💖
Scammers are getting smarter and smarter all the time, and can now spoof any phone number they’d like.
So, I just need everyone to know that your local welfare caseworker does not care about your PIN. We will never, ever ask you for your EBT card’s PIN. It’s not our business and there’s no need for us to know.
We MAY care about your EBT card number, but only if you call us about an issue with your card and we’re troubleshooting. We will never, out of the blue, call you to ask for your EBT card number. And, again, WE DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR PIN. THAT’S YOUR BUSINESS.
If someone calls you and says they’re from your local social services/human services/etc. department and there’s an issue that requires you to disclose your EBT PIN, hang up on them and call your actual factual office to report the scam.
they are not getting smarter if they are still asking for pins over the phone. by now if you do not grasp that someone asking for your pin on the phone is automatically a scammer or have not heard it. it’s not them getting smarter. it’s you being a tit.
The “smarter” comment was referring to them being able to spoof any phone number. You know, including the legitimate phone number of a caseworker in a legitimate social services office.
Also like, if you’re working two jobs while going to trade school and checking in monthly with several different caseworkers you MAY not have a lot of time to browse the internet or read the news.
And in my current county, calls are recorded, which means I need to follow a strict script when I call my clients. Part of that script is IMMEDIATELY asking them to verify their personal identity, including their social security number (or at least the last 4 digits).
During my interviews, I grill people on their relationship status, who they live with, where they get their money, how they’re paying their rent, what bank accounts, vehicles, hell even expensive jewelry they might have.
Is it really so farfetched that someone who is used to officious people asking them invasive questions might assume that a request for their PIN is legitimate?
Spock probably thinks he’s being SO straightforward when he initially starts flirting with jim. He’s like…. “prolonged eye contact? Check. Stood 72.4% closer to him on the bridge today? Check. Told Jim I found his illogic fascinating? Double check. Soon we will progress to lingering sleeve touches and conversations about our mutual interests. I estimate I’ll be able to propose marriage within the next decade” and poor Jim’s just like “bones I might be wrong here but I think Spock might actually like hanging out with me. It’s just a vibe but it’s definitely there. Do you think we’re friends yet? Do you think he likes me? I just don’t know”
The Doctor Who fandom going from one of the cringiest and most volatile fandoms on Tumblr to a bunch of people of different genders and sexualities worshipping the very ground Jodie Whittaker/Thirteen walks on truly is THE glow up of the century™.
THIS IS TRULY WHAT TWENTYGAYTEEN WAS ALL ABOUT I’M SCREAMING
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