mobandroyalty:

masha-russia:

So this happened to me a few days ago, and I thought maybe sharing my experience could help someone if this happens to them in the future.

I was checking my Tumblr when suddenly I was logged out from it and given the usual Log In page. When I entered the details to access my blog, this appeared:

My heart skipped a bit. I tried to re-enter the details (maybe I got them wrong the first time), but no, the same message about Termination was shown. I typed my blog URL and got the

ominous

:

Same thing with my sideblogs.

So obviously I was very worried. I contacted the Tumblr support but didn’t get an answer for 48 hours, only an automated reply. I already started mentally saying goodbye to my blogs, my posts and all my followers, when finally I recieved their answer:

(In case you can’t see the picture, it says: 

Hello,
We’ve restored your account.
Thank you for bringing this problem to our attention. We’re sorry that it occurred, and we’ll do our best to make sure that it doesn’t happen again.
You should now be able to log in just fine with your email address and password.
Please let me know if there’s anything else I can help you with.

 My blog was restored and working normally. All my sideblogs were intact , and so were my posts and my followers. The only thing that was lost, is all the conversations by Messages. The people with whom you talked are still there, but all the history of the conversation is gone.

Alright so here is what you should do if this happens to you. Don’t panick like I did Click on the “contact support” link provided in the terminated window. Alternatively, go on Tumblr.com/support. 

Politely explain your situation – give your blog URL, your mail, tell what happened exactly. I understand that the situation can be upsetting, but the person who will read the message and try to help you isn’t directly responsible for the termination of your blog. And sending an angry message with insults isn’t the best way to get your blog back either. 

 Wait for the reply of the team. If you feel like it takes too much time (more than few days for example), try to fill the Help/Support form again. 

 Once the team is in contact with you, keep the polite tone. Normally if your blog didn’t go againt the Tumblr rules and policies, you should getit back like I did.

Voila 🙂 

Guys this is important. 2 of my followers and rp partners got their accounts terminated today so be careful

barbara-lazuli:

geoclaire:

probably-voldemort:

ahallister:

olofahere:

probably-voldemort:

probably-voldemort:

So apparently my sister has had a fake girlfriend for the last like two years

Thanks for asking.

So the other night I’m sitting in bed studying or watching Netflix or just being a lazy bum cause I was sick, I don’t remember exactly, but Sam comes in and joins me in my bed.

“Kee,” she says eventually.  “I need to tell you something cause it’s gonna come up at the karate party, and I need you to know so you don’t act weird.”

And I’m like “Okay?  Why is something coming up at the karate party?  Why do you think I’m going to act weird?  Why does this matter?  You’re not even in karate.”

And she’s like “Yeah, but Eliza is.”

So I’m trying to figure out what the heck she’s talking about and I’m like “So?  What do you think we do at karate parties?  Tell our best friends’ deep dark secrets?”

And she laughs and is like “No, but I’m gonna be there as Eliza’s plus one.”

And I’m like “What?  We didn’t get a plus one.  What are you talking about?”

And she’s like “Yeah, but you’re allowed to bring your significant other and your kids if you have them, right?  I’m coming as Eliza’s significant other.”

So of course I’m like “What?  Since when are you and Eliza dating?”

And she rolls her eyes and is like “We’re not.  It’s fake.”

So from what I got, this is the gist of their “relationship”:

Once upon a time in grade 12, Sam and Eliza figured out a way to scam the system of conditional plus ones on invitations.  If you pretended to be dating, you could bring your best friend to anything that significant others were allowed to come to.

They’ve never kissed or done anything more than hold hands and refer to each other as “my girlfriend” on their dating adventures, and their “dates” are limited to parties where the chances of someone who knows they aren’t actually dating are low.  Apparently they’ve got a lock down on being each other’s plus ones to weddings, at whatever point they start getting invited to weddings that aren’t just them tagging along with their parents and weddings are super fun so they want to maximize the number of weddings they get to go to.

Their “anniversary” is around Halloween, since the first time thy tried their loophole was for a Halloween party for some club that Eliza was in.

So yeah.  I guess last year while Eliza was at uni with me and Sam was in a college in our hometown, there were quite a few times that Sam drove down and stayed at Eliza’s dorm for the weekend just because there was some party or event or whatever that Eliza was allowed to bring a significant other to and “Kee, it’s ridiculous.  Why wouldn’t you bring an extra person if you’re allowed to?  It’s like they’re just begging people to find this loophole.  We’re basically geniuses.  We get like twice as much free food.”

Apparently the only reason I haven’t been told until now is because Sam thought I’d judge her or make it into a big deal or something, and there really wasn’t any reason to tell me because there hadn’t been a situation where I’d also be there.

Until the karate party.

Because Eliza’s in my dojo and I was also going to be at the karate party.

So I had to swear on my eventual degree that I was not going to tell our parents or anyone else because “this is top secret, Kee.  It’s need to know only, and Mom definitely does not need to know” and to be chill about it at the karate party.

“So,” Sam asks, leaning back against my pillows.  “Who’re you bringing to the karate party.”

“No one.  I’m not dating anyone.”

“Lame.  You should get a fake relationship.  They’re great.”

So anyway their “dating” at the karate party was basically the same as their regular relationship.  They sat next to each other.  They shared food from each other’s plates.  It was pretty funny watching them field questions about their relationship though.

“So how long have you known each other?”  “Oh, since kindergarten.”  “That’s so cute.”  “I know.  We were both pretty cute when we were kids.  I don’t know what happened to Eliza.”  “Please.  I’m still adorable, and you know it.”

There’s this one dude in the dojo who’s been in a bunch of classes with Eliza and they’re friends outside of karate too and he shows up late to the party and is all “Sam!  It’s great to finally meet you!  I’ve heard so much about you!”  Because apparently Eliza’s told him about her “girlfriend”?  According to her, he doesn’t know it’s fake, and I’m kind of confused and Sam also looked kind of shocked that he expected her to be there so idk what’s going on there.

But yeah.  That’s the story of my sister and her fake girlfriend.  I’m sure they’ve got some funny fake-date stories but I don’t know them yet.

A couple other things:

• Sam and Eliza have been best friends since kindergarten and Eliza’s family lives just up the road from mine back home, so Eliza is basically another little sister to me
• I don’t actually know either of their sexualities.  I’ve never actually seen Sam when she’s got a crush or is into someone and we were never really into fawning over celebrities or anything growing up, so I don’t know who she’s into.  I do know she’s never been on an actual date outside of her fake dates with Eliza and that she hasn’t had her first kiss yet.
• And, considering I don’t know my sister’s sexuality, I feel like it’d be a little odd to know Eliza’s since, as far as I know, she also hasn’t actually non-fake dated anyone either.  Factoring in the group of kids they went through high school with, I’m really not surprised about any of this.  There really weren’t any good dating candidates there.
• That all being said, I wouldn’t be surprised if either of them were bi or day or anything, or if this was just them failing at transitioning from friends to more.  They would honestly be a cute couple if they were into girls and wanted to date each other.  So I approve, if that’s the direction this ends up heading.
• People from the events they’ve gone to as dates keep asking about them and they’ve been keeping up the charade whenever they run into these people or otherwise talk to them (why it wouldn’t be easier to just be like “oh we broke up actually” I don’t know but I had to swear I wouldn’t judge so this is just me stating facts and not judging lol) so apparently they’re going to have a photo shoot in a pumpkin patch for their two year anniversary??? so they can send these people pictures???  and I think as apparently the only person in on this secret I’m pretty sure I’m going to be roped into being the photographer??? which all could be seen as a little extra, but I’m not allowed to judge.
• Honestly this whole thing is ridiculous but I’m legally not allowed to judge but I never swore against waiting for the inevitable moment when this is going to blow up in their faces hilariously

Life, once again, succeeding at being both less dramatic and much weirder than fanfic.

One of these days, they’re going to end up getting fake-married, just to keep up the charade, and so that they can go on a fake honeymoon together, and I really want an update when that happens.

I mean tbh it’s quite possible haha. My sister keeps complaining that our cousin is taking too long to have her wedding because she really wants to go to a wedding and why don’t we ever get invited to weddings? So that plus the amount of free gifts you get from getting married could theoretically make this the next step in their plan haha. Or at least fake engaged so they can have wedding showers and then call off the wedding and never return the gifts haha

Please report back in like 1-5 years depending on how bad this slow burn is

my god this is better than any fake dating fanfic i’ve read so far

schraubd:

What is the type of antisemitism that keeps you up at night?

For me, believe it or not, it isn’t the violence. It isn’t Pittsburgh. Pittsburgh is scary, but – rightly or wrongly – I continue to think that this sort of antisemitism is and will remain a rare occurrence in the United States.

The antisemitism that gives me nightmares is a different sort, and requires some explaining. But the short version is that it’s the antisemitism of negative partisanship (or “the politics of hurt”).

Here’s what I mean by that. Antisemitic acts are sometimes done by people who don’t conceive of themselves as antisemites. In such cases, we’d expect that the reaction of Jews to those acts – the declaration that “this was antisemitic” and “this hurt us” – to count as a negative. The actor would not have desired that result, that his or her action elicited such a response would count against it. And even if the actor isn’t so chagrined, we’d hope that this would be the impact on social observers. If people see that Jews reacted negatively to something – that we thought it was scary, or unjust, or antisemitic, or what have you – then they’d be less favorably disposed towards whatever it was that caused us to react so poorly.

But this isn’t always what happens. Sometimes, in some cases, a poor Jewish reaction isn’t viewed as a negative. It’s viewed as a positive. It shows that you’re poking the right people. It shows you’re standing up to power. It shows that you haven’t been cowed. “If you’re taking flak, that means you’re over the target”, as the saying goes – a saying which assumes that those firing the flak are also the enemy to be targeted.

Consider Tamika Mallory’s infamous remark, in response to Jewish criticism of alleged antisemitism, that “If your leader does not have the same enemies as Jesus, they may not be THE leader!” Obviously, in context there was a specific antisemitic valence to the “Jesus” reference that has been much remarked on. But even if you strip that part away, there’s a deeper problem: Mallory is casting it as a point of pride that the Jews are critiquing her – are her “enemies”. It’s one of the ways she knows she’s on the right track. The victim-blaming template Ariel Sobel attributed to the Women’s March – where largely progressive Jewish criticism is transformed into a coordinated right-wing assault (itself an antisemitic maneuver of deep vintage) – is in the same vein. The goal is to make it so that when people hear these sorts of criticisms from these sorts of people, their instinct is to pull closer towards the object of critique. If they’re taking flak from Jews, then they must be over the target.

This is what keeps me up at night, because it subverts any possibility of effective Jewish political action in response to perceived wrongs. If it is a perk that Jews are upset, if it is a positive political sign, then it’s counterproductive for Jews even to try and communicate “this hurt us.” Expressions of Jewish hurt end up redounding to the benefit of those causing the hurt. What are we to do?

Particularly in political contexts, this can yield dangerous feedback loops. I have no doubt that Jewish dislike of Jeremy Corbyn cost Labour votes in some districts, particularly heavily Jewish neighborhoods. I also have no doubt that, on a national level, the perception that Jews dislike Corbyn gained him at least as many votes as it lost him. There are definitely people for whom the chasm between Corbyn and the Jews is how they know Corbyn is “THE leader”. The reason why Labour under Corbyn has so much trouble “quitting” antisemitism is because Labour is, in very real ways, aided by the perception that Labour under Corbyn antagonizes the Jews.

This has effects here at home too. Consider how Minnesota Jews might react to the Ilhan Omar doubletalk controversy I wrote about yesterday. Right now, the way I feel towards Omar, and the way I imagine many Minnesota Jewish community members feel, is something like the following:

We have serious problems with BDS, which for us has deep associations with antisemitism and antisemitic exclusion targeting Jews around the world. But beyond those substantive problems, it’s especially upsetting and disrespectful for you to come before a synagogue, say you find BDS ‘counteractive’, and then once the election is over say ‘actually, I’ve always supported BDS’ and pretend like you weren’t blatantly misleading us. The moderator “didn’t ask a yes or no question”? Don’t insult our intelligence. And add this to the ‘hypnotize’ tweet – which you’ve still never acknowledged has antisemitic resonances – and we’ve got some very serious concerns right now.

In a healthy political environment for Jews, this sort of sentiment would be viewed as a negative for Omar. It would be damaging, if Jews in her community were reacting this way, that would be a sign she’d done something wrong. I’m not saying it should necessarily be fatal or unrecoverable – indeed, I think the opposite. In a healthy political environment, the fact that this would be viewed as a problem would motivate Omar to try to heal the damage and mend the rift. It would be bad for Ilhan Omar to be in a state where Jews were upset with her.

But does anyone have any confidence that, if such above sentiments were expressed, it would be viewed as a negative for Omar? Is it not possible, even likely, that such a reaction from Jews instead would be evidence that Omar was “bold”, was “independent”, was “unapologetically progressive” (even though, of course, the base of the controversy was actually that Omar had engaged in a pretty classic case of political weasel-wording)? Wouldn’t the Jewish reaction very quickly be recast as a right-wing reaction, even though most Minnesota Jews are quite consciously progressive? Wouldn’t many people be even more positively inclined towards Omar than they already were – proud to see her stand tall against the Jewish onslaught?

Again, this is speculative – we don’t know how, if at all, the Jewish community in Minnesota plans to respond to Omar, nor how Omar plans to respond to her Jewish constituents. And the possibility of turning converting Jewish opposition into political support doesn’t mean it’s a path that would be taken. A genuine ally would resist the temptation; even if the prospect of adulation for “standing up” to the Jews presents itself, she would not indulge because of her own accord she would be unhappy that Jews were unhappy with her.

Nonetheless, this prospect – and my fundamental lack of confidence that this prospect isn’t actually reality – keeps me up at night. David Hirsh wrote worryingly that – more than BDS, more than school or synagogue security, more than the future of relations between Israel and the west, more than anything else – “what really frightens me is that a generation of left-wing activists are being taught that the enemy is the Jews.” Even if you think that’s a little overwrought, I would endorse the notion that a generation of left-wing activists are being taught that if Jews are angry at them, that means they’re doing something right rather than something wrong.

Naively or not, the cornerstone of my resistance to antisemitism – what gives me the confidence that it can be resisted – is a firm belief in the possibility that empathic dialogue and open communication can change minds and alter behavior. I believe – again, perhaps naively – that most people don’t want to see Jews hurting, and hence that when we express hurt, people will be at least more inclined to change their ways.

If that’s wrong, if people – including the people in my community, including the people that supposedly are my most essential allies against Pittsburgh-style antisemitic violence – are excited, thrilled, empowered by seeing Jews in distress, then my entire edifice for fighting antisemitism crumbles. And that keeps me up at night.

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neuropunk-travesty:

betterbemeta:

here’s a tip

this is a Nazi.

This is a person who reblogged a post of mine via some Nazi blogs.

Notice they do not call themselves a Nazi. Instead, they use a collection of dog whistle interests that require specific contexts to be understood as basically white nationalism, colonialist white-heritage ‘antiquities’, specifically white nationalist Christianity, Nazi-related gender roles and ‘traditionalism’. Notice they work with children. 

Learn to recognize Nazis. They do not look like goose-stepping jack booted thugs all of the time. Beware.

“traditionalism” is a big red flag with a swastika right in the center.

Be wary of anyone who self-describes that way.

eshusplayground:

ceylonsilvergirl:

libhobn:

janothar:

We don’t need more armed guards at Jewish spaces.  They are unlikely to stop a serious attacker and quite likely to cause problems for Black Jews and other Jews who don’t “look Jewish” to their eyes.

We need more armed guards at Nazi spaces.  Namely, to keep them in and stop them from causing problems in the rest of society.

I don’t trust cops, and I especially don’t trust them around my black friends (including black Jewish friends). Don’t count on a cop being one of the good apples.

Some of those that work forces, are the same that burn crosses

miriams-song: